Aren't COM ports virtual? If so it wouldn't matter what the number was
as long as the software recognized ports equal to or higher than your port.
As far as the radio keying up when the plug is inserted, shut the radio off before
you insert the plug. If it does key up then there is a problem with the cable or plug.
I've never read of anyone having their radio key up after the plug was inserted.
Also unless you have 19 COM ports in use, any of them could be invalid. I think
previous devices remain in the registry after use and the port can be easily forced
to use over by your new device.